Love & Forgiveness, It is time

I wrote this to a friend who asked for insight & guidance, I thought it turned out to be a pretty good response so I modified it a bit and put it here to share with everyone.
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What you put out will be what you attract. When you start changing your mindset you will start to see your life shift for the better.
There are no miracles, it is hard work reflecting on your life
and then accepting it for what it "was" and then letting it go.
The first positive thought you need to keep with you always is that "there is so much more out there".
Your loved ones who have passed are with you whenever you need them. We never die, we just shed the body we had on earth.
They whisper in your ear, they show you signs that they are with you. Start paying attention. Talk to them as if they are right in front of you,
because they are.

It is also time to heal all those old wounds from the past.
We all have those moments that we can't forget and they have shaped who we are today.
Look back and review your life, what you can learn from it?
When we have something happen to us over and over again it is "spirit, the God Source, our guides" making us pay attention.
It is something we need to "fix" or a lesson we need to learn.
My example: My repeated crappy relationships with men finally ending with a psycho. Believe me when I say I was in a tailspin.
Why the heck couldn't I find someone to live my life with and be happy???? Why so much drama, loss and pain????
Why didn't I "feel" anything, why was I not close to my family???
I decided to check into getting a past life reading and that my friends was my eye opener.
We all chose our bodies, our parents and our life lessons before our souls entered this current body.
In a prior life I learned I was a very selfish person, I demanded love and
attention and got what I wanted but at the expense of ostracizing all
others.
This time around I chose to be born to a family I had nothing in common with,
they did not show love or say I love you and were very cold in all aspects.
What a freaking wake up call. I could remember from very early on in
my life thinking I was with the wrong family and would secretly hope
someone would adopt me and save me.
That all translated to my searching for someone to love me, I had many failed relationships and marriages, more than I care to
remember.

Once I understood what I was supposed to learn this time around I got it.
I had to learn to love myself. I had to love every aspect of myself, good and bad. I had to love all others.
To do this I had to reflect on my life and forgive myself for everything, I mean everything.
The next biggest hurdle was forgiving everyone who had ever hurt me. That took me at least 2 years, it is not easy.
And the last person on my list was my mother. I forgave all those other
creeps and low lives but I could not let go of how much I despised my
mother.
I was hit constantly with messages from spirit that I had to let it go in order to move forward.
How I did it may help you. I understood that I had to accept her for who she was, she was not going to change.
Why allow someone to have that kind of power over you?
Family, friends, enemies, co-workers, service workers, customer services, etc.
Accept them for who they are. Everyone. You cannot change them, nor is it your job to change them. They have to figure themselves out.
Your concern is yourself first and foremost.
Most people really don't give it a second thought that they hurt you and by giving them that power over you they win and you lose. No one has the right to make you feel guilty. Nor should you feel guilty for anything you have ever done.
Life is to learn, to makes mistakes, to experience failure and most of all to experience elation for all that is good & right.
Always, always rise above the negative.

Start
small. When you go to the grocery store or wherever always be friendly,
give a kind word, smile, say thank you very much and have a beautiful day.
Because those small changes lift someone else up as well as you and your own vibration.
Accept the delays in life, catching the red light, getting stuck in the wrong line, because it is not an accident.
Look around you while you are waiting, there might be a message or situation that will benefit you.

Start appreciating nature in all aspects. When you are in the backyard or walking, whatever & wherever, clear your mind and enjoy the trees, the shape of them, how majestic
they are.
Feel the subtle changes in the atmosphere, the small brief breeze that is trying to catch your attention, the smells in the air.
Make yourself aware of all that is good & beautiful.
You are a beautiful person, you WILL find yourself, be patient.

Louise Hay has a wonderful book called Heart Thoughts it is a collection of inner wisdom's & affirmations.
I highly recommend it.

Excerpt: I release all old hurts and forgive myself
When you hold onto the past with bitterness and anger and don't allow yourself to experience the present moment, you are wasting today. If you hold onto bitterness and grudges for a long time, it has to do with forgiving yourself, not the other person. If you hold onto old hurts, you punish yourself in the here and now. Often, you sit in a prison of self-righteous resentment. do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy? Forgive yourself and stop punishing yourself.